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 This July 4th,  my sister and I have been invited to help organizers of a large-scale program at the Statue of Liberty to mark the reopening of the crown for the first time in eight years.
LibertyAssorted dignitaries and invited guests are expected; some will make speeches, a marching band will play, and various veterans’ representatives will be recognized. The ceremonies will also include a group of immigrants to be sworn in. 
 I am unaccountably excited this year.  I’ve always loved parades and fireworks and hometown celebrations; I plan to catch as many as I can in and around my small community, whose fireworks over the lake are pretty terrific.  Macy’s just shifted their display over to the west side, which gives those of us from New Jersey a shot at some terrific views. 
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July 4th by its very nature reminds me of our origins  -  of our Founding Fathers, of liberty and law, of the ideals we hold so dear and in all sincerity, of spaciousness and graciousnessEllis Island passengers on ship3a13598uw and American exceptionalism, by which I mean the remarkable confluence of history, resources, and governance and most of all, the faces of the new arrivals to this country (like my grandparents) when they first glimpsed the face of the woman with the torch. Like the faces of the new citizens will look when they are sworn in on Saturday.
The festivities this year feel hard-earned, well-deserved, and special. I honestly believe we’ve made some enormous steps in the right direction as a nation. Yes, we’re in the middle of some hard times and we’re not coming together on common ground as much as one might have hoped; there’s still far too much rancor and fear.
Then again, where but in America are you going to have an O’Reilly and an Oberman? Where else would people stay relatively patient and calm over eight excruciating months in order to find out who their representative would be, as did the good people of Minnesota? new citizensWhere else are you going to see so many people representing so much diversity waving flags and singing the national anthem and wearing red, white and blue with such pride?
 
There’s one other thing: The crown is opening for the first time since September 11, 2001. That has special resonance for me. After 9/11, our country’s leaders projected at various times, belligerence, defiance, or cluelessness. It seemed like such an awful way to remember those who died that day, including my husband, or to show the world what America could do, could be. But we survived and thrived and these days I feel strongly that we’re putting forth a truer vision of America than ever before, a vision of hope, opportunity, and resilience.
The philosophy behind the attacks had much to do with conformity, a single-minded belief system, a raft of fixed and preconceived notions about how the world is or should be. What Lady Liberty says, from her head to her toes, is just the opposite. She symbolizes tolerance, freedom, and the willingness to adapt, adopt, and change. That’s the America a groups of immigrants will join Saturday morning.  I can’t wait to see them become citizens under the watchful gaze of our most famous Statue.  

 

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On July 4th, 2009, a morning of festivities at the Statue of Liberty will be capped (so to speak) by the reopening of the statue’s crown. On hand will be various dignitaries, assorted participants, from veterans to at least one marching band, and a group of new immigrants ready to become citizens under the benevolent gaze of Lady Liberty. 

July 4th feels different this year.  I’ve always loved parades and hometown celebrations; I plan to catch as many as I can in and around my small community.  paradeMacy’s just shifted their display over to the west side, which gives those of us from New Jersey a shot at some terrific views. fireworks

 

July 4th by its very nature reminds me of our origins  -  of our Founding Fathers, of liberty and law, of the ideals we hold so dear and in all sincerity, of spaciousness and graciousness and American exceptionalism, by which I mean the remarkable confluence of history, resources, and governance and most of all, the faces of the new arrivals to this country (like my grandparents) when they first glimpsed the face of the woman with the torch. Like the faces of the new citizens will look when they are sworn in on Saturday. Ellis Island passengers on ship3a13598uw

The festivities this year feel hard-earned, well-deserved, and special. I honestly believe we’ve made some enormous steps in the right direction as a nation. Yes, we’re in the middle of some hard times and we’re not coming together on common ground as much as one might have hoped; there’s still far too much rancor and fear.

Then again, where but in America are you going to have an O’Reilly and an Olbermann? Where else would people stay relatively patient and calm over eight excruciating months in order to find out who their representative would be, as did the good people of Minnesota? Where else are you going to see so many people representing so much diversity waving flags and singing the national anthem and wearing red, white and blue with such pride? new citizens

There’s one other thing: The crown is opening for the first time since September 11, 2001. That has special resonance for me. After 9/11, our country’s leaders projected at various times, belligerence, defiance, or cluelessness. It seemed like such an awful way to remember those who died that day, including my husband, or to show the world what America could do, could be. But we survived and thrived and these days I feel strongly that we’re putting forth a truer vision of America than ever before, a vision of hope, opportunity, and resilience.

The philosophy behind the attacks had much to do with conformity, a single-minded belief system, a raft of fixed and preconceived notions about how the world is or should be. What Lady Liberty says, from her head to her toes, is just the opposite. She symbolizes tolerance, freedom, and the willingness to adapt, adopt, and change. That’s the America a groups of immigrants will join Saturday morning.  

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Ed, Farrah, Michael, Billy (Mays) and soon, Walter: we mourn the deaths of these celebrities as if they are old friends or family. In the midst of the latest round of grieving, it occurs to some of us to ask how it is that we take so personally the passing of people we don’t really know.

I have some experience with what I call “public death”: my husband was a 9/11 victim and although he wasn’t a cultural icon in the “traditional” sense, he surely became something symbolic to large numbers of strangers. His name was listed at hundreds of memorials, on billboards, on websites, even on the side of a charter bus I saw. He was remembered in speeches and articles, sometimes specifically by name, though he was simply a back-office worker who was doing his job. Members of an Atlanta church “adopted” my husband as a victim for whom they would pray; so did a group of schoolchildren in Germany. I heard from people who used to know Jim, my husband, or barely knew him, or never knew him. NY911-0104 70.105All felt the loss terribly and personally.

Of course 9/11 was a tragedy of gigantic proportions and involved an unexpected attack that threatened us all. In fact, tragic deaths, whether they involve tsunamis or high school shootings are terrifying because they are so random. We feel the need to respond, reach out, and relate to each other.

Really, though any death is random, when you think about it; that’s what really frightens us, I imagine. Even when we’re expecting it and think we’re prepared for it, it feels sudden and it certainly feels final. And when we’re not prepared, it shoves our own morality right in front of us. Cultural icons that die often represent or recall a particular and perhaps more innocent or happier time and in mourning them, we mourn our own life losses.

That may explain why we seem to pick certain people to mourn and not others. Do we relate more to the loss of a pop star or TV fantasy than we do to starving children aroud the world? I hope not; I suspect it’s a question of scale and familiarity. That doesn’t make it right.

There’s one more thing and that is that we humans seem to need to participate in the (for lack of a better word) pageantry of a public mourning process. Perhaps we find immersing ourselves in the deaths of others is cathartic; a “safe” way to mourn for ourselves. As I noted in an op-ed piece I wrote after the Virginia Tech shootings, our involvement can veer dangerously into a sort of collective therapy session that becomes more about our need to comfort ourselves than about comforting or empathizing with others.VA Tech

This is all perfectly understandable. I do wish we could find a way to avoid the spectacle that accompanies dying in public (although something tells me celebrities might appreciate the posthumous attention). I’d like to see us instead go silent a minute. In the space that opens up, we can send out our thoughts and prayers for those who are gone and quietly contemplate our shared humanity.

Two stories were prominently on display this past week: Jon and Kate; and the protests in Iran. They aren’t comparable, of course – except in their ubiquity.

To catch you up: Jon and Kate Gosselin had sextuplets, which, in addition to their two older children, gave them a family of eight to raise. They are currently doing a fifth season of a reality program, during which time they’ve apparently been adversely affected by fame and paparazzi, though they seem to enjoy the money. Monday night on their show, they announced they’d filed for divorce, which surprised no one who cared in the first place. Now you know as much as I do and no, I have not watched a single episode. jonkatex-largeI know what I know because other forms of media seem to think this is an important “celebrity” story. We can bicker about whether any celebrity story is important, but I can think of about fifty such stories that would be loads more entertaining and less painful to follow. I managed to have a little fun with this story because Open Salon, a blog to which I contribute, sponsored a contest to come up with what the announcement really ought to be. I wrote a  fake press release noting that Jon and Kate were giving their kids away to needy families.

The show will apparently continue. Fortunately, there are other forms of escapist fare,  from several terrific shows on USA Network or TNT, or any number of quality fiction books.

The other major story of the week: the protests in Iran. Is there any international story more deserving of the dominant place in the news? We here in the U.S. are likely sick of the endless bickering over health care (do something already!), or the sight of state governments from California to New York imploding, and we don’t want to play “Where in the world is Governor Mark Sanford?” any more. Besides, this election, the result, and this protest are important in a number of tangible and symbolic ways, not the least of which is that we can learn what’s happening, despite the typical post-election government crackdown on outside communication.  The fact that the news coming out of Iran is mainly via Twitter has not only thwarted government attempts at media suppression but also has the talking heads talking themselves blue in the face about what Twitter means for the future of journalism. As fantastic a tool as it obviously is, especially for people denied many freedoms (see my post below), Twitter isn’t perfect; a tiny number of observers are noting that these instantaneous messages, even those accompanied by visuals, are hard to verify or put in context.

 6That isn’t the point, of course; neither is the fact that the 3 million votes that appear not to have been counted might not by themselves be enough to change the outcome of the election. The point is, a large, educated, heavily female, mostly young group of citizens is standing up to a repressive government and inviting the world to see what that means. That’s a form of reality television you can be certain isn’t scripted.

It’s understandable everyone wants to report on, analyze, discuss, and dissect the events in Iran.  A variety of issues intersect with this event: how democracy and a particular interpretation of Islam will work; what the U.S  relationship with a nascent nuclear power can be; how women’s quest for equal rights may be affected; and, of course, how communication technology promotes a sort of freedom that can’t be contained.  But there’s another point to be made: While mainstream media tries to chase the Twitter phenomena, while alt media shakes its head at how out-of touch mainstream media really is, and while a shrinking corps of journalists risk their necks to get stories, I hope everyone will notice there’s a lot going on, not just with the Gosselins and not just in Iran.

TwitI am not the most backward person I know when it comes to technology but neither am I in the vanguard. Some of that relates to my skill set (not innately tech-focused  and my age (the dark side of fifty). I also find the immediacy of certain kinds of high-tech communication leaves a lot to be desired in the in-depth department. Texting is fine when you are running late (or L8) and sending a tweet that says “help” when you’re sinking in quicksand might make sense, but as for reporting (not to mention analyzing, deciphering, dissecting or opining on) the news, I want quality, I want depth and I want complete sentences.

Let me now revise that.

protestIn the space of a few days, Twitter, that ubiquitous and previously irritating form of communication favored by second-strong celebrities, has become a force for real revolution: the kind that allows ordinary (or extraordinary) citizens a voice even in the midst of a government crackdown on communications. Of course I’m referring to Iran, where young protesters are broadcasting minute by real-time minute about their protests in a way that CNN has been absolutely unable to do.

There are a number of reports that talk about this new use for this new medium, including today’s New York Times and a recent post by Andrew Sullivan online at the Atlantic Magazine.

But what I’m most excited about is not just the on-the-spot, heartfelt reporting (one demonstrator sent a tweet that proclaimed “Ahmadinejad called us Dust, we showed him a sandstorm.”) but also the response of the other social networkers around the world. They are providing support both emotional (a large Facebook group as well as a number of followers around the world plugged in to “listen” to the opposition reports) and practical (supplying proxy server addresses for Twitter accounts when the government shuts down local Internet access).

Think about it: a democratic uprising takes place in one part of the world and people all over the globe can mobilize world opinion and perhaps more in a nanosecond. Are there young people in North Korea who, drawn to the social power of Facebook or Twitter, will also be drawn to protest1the power of freedom? What about Cuba? What about Saudi Arabia? Moreover, what does the involvement of twitterers say about the potential to interest an entire generation in the politics of communication and the possibility of change?

Twitter will still be used for inane reports about the breakfast habits of wanna-be A-listers and as a cruelly simple way of engineering a breakup, I suppose. But the idea that it can be used to sustain a social democracy movement has me as excited as I’ve been in years. I’m ready to open an account if I can sustain the required manual dexterity; I want to keep up. peace

I liked what I read about Obama’s Cairo speech and I pretty much liked the speech itself. At the risk of sounding fatuous, I would have given a similar presentation had I been in his position - with a couple of additions. I would have been more direct about the necessity of giving more than lip service to democracy. I would have reminded the Arab countries a little more forcefully (as he had indicated he would do) that they haven’t exactly stepped up to the plate when it comes to investing in the future of Palestine although some nations have been happy to arm the militant factions. He might have been a bit more careful when discussing the Holocaust as if it were equivalent to the Palestinian plight; from a tactical standpoint, that wasn’t going to sit too well with an Israel already stunned by the idea that an American President would tell them to stop building settlements. But by and large and given the setting, I think it worked. It brilliantly undermined Osama Bin Laden’s bid for attention and made it seem almost churlish to dislike an America that was trying hard to balance competing interests. 

What I don’t know is whether his comments will help resolve the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. It seems at this point to be intractable.  As I wrote in a similarly named post here in January:  

“Israelis see themselves as always and evermore in danger of being targeted for extinction. Nearly everything they do seems to derive from their understanding of and belief in the constant threat of annihilation… Palestinians see themselves as always and evermore in danger of remaining as refugees, without rights, without opportunities and without a homeland, pushed around by a small country with a large and powerful friend. Many have been raised to believe it is uniquely Israel that stands in the way of their liberation and so Israel must be destroyed, which, of course, confirms Israel’s worst fears.”

We’ve lived through other two-party conflicts: the Cold War was all about a nuclear standoff between two superpowers with weapons of mass destruction aimed at each other’s cities. Capitalism seems to have been a major player in the end of that faceoff; that and internal dissention pursuaded the USSR to have a go at the free market way of life. There was also the impracticality of surviving in a post-nuclear world, something I wish I felt the current nuclear powers were considering more carefully.

What’s going on between Israel and Palestine ought to be able to be resolved along similarly pragmatic lines: yes to the two-state solution and to Israel’s right to exist, with the proviso that punishment for any violators will come from the Muslim world. Not a chance, I hear some of my readers say. Well then, let’s get right to the heart of the matter. While grievances and fears and biases and hatreds exist, they can be overcome by proof that common ground might yield a better life for everyone. Resolution is always potentially possible, especially when it becomes obvious it makes more sense to do so. So who wants the Israel-Palestinian issue to be resolved, and more importantly, who doesn’t – and why not?

Who Needs a Hug?

 
How about this bit of human interest news? According to a front page story in the New York Times, teenagers now use a hug to say hello, enveloping even those they may not know wellkidshug. Everyone’s hugging – boys, girls, BFFs, casual acquaintances, even groups. 

What’s up with that? Are the hugs the leading edge of ever more casual interaction between people. Is it a teen reaction to the sterile isolation of virtual communication – e-mail, text, IM and Twitter? Are young people looking for connection in an uncertain world? Are they trying to make the geeks and the squeamish and the Christina Ricci Goth girl types who are ChristinaRicciuncomfortable with human contact feel even more out of it? Or is this simply another way for teens to defy convention and push defensive school administrators worried about inappropriate contact between students even further to the wall? Maybe all of the above.  

No matter; everybody’s doing it in high school. If it’s subversive, it’s cleverly so. I mean, who doesn’t love hugs? So warm, so fuzzy so fraught with meaning.hug frog

Somewhere back in the nineties, I read something about human beings needing fourteen hugs a day in order to feel well-adjusted. I was not about to depend on my exhausted, hard-working husband to deliver all fourteen so I settled for three or four and a shot at being moderately well-adjusted. At the time, I was married but working from home, thus somewhat socially isolated. My husband didn’t seem to worry at all, bless his well-adjusted soul. 

Now that I’m on my own and have a huggable little dog, I don’t feel as if I need physical contact with everyone and anyone I run into. I’m worried, in fact, that this ritual greeting might become a common cultural convention in social and business settings.menHugs I wouldn’t like that. I don’t want to hug my clients. I like my mailman Willy well enough. Hell, we  went through the anthrax scare together (Willie still wears a glove, kind of like Michael Jackson).  I tip him at Christmastime. But I don’t want a hug from him. Nor do I want the saleslady from Ann Taylor to accompany her enthusiastic “Those pants are so you!” with a hug. My doctor? No. My neighbor? Definitely not.  The cute guy who walks his dogs at the same time I walk mine? Okay, you got me there.

soloHugI am all in favor of shrinking our carbon footprints and trying to use up fewer resources but for better or for worse, I have managed to create my own space and I, for one, would appreciate it if no one would invade it uninvited.

 

 

 

How about this bit of human interest news? According to a front page story in the New York Times, teenagers now use a hug to say hello, enveloping even those they may not know well. What’s up with that? Are they the leading edge of ever more casual interaction between people. Is it a reaction to the sterile isolation of virtual communication – e-mail, text, IM and Twitter? Are teens looking for connection in an uncertain world? Is this designed to make the geeks and the squeamish and the Christina Ricci Goth girl types who are uncomfortable with human contact feel even more out of it? Or is this simply another way for teens to defy convention and push defensive school administrators worried about inappropriate contact between students even further to the wall? Maybe all of the above.
No matter; everybody’s doing it in high school, apparently – across gender and racial lines and including group hugs. If it’s subversive, it’s cleverly so. I mean, who doesn’t love hugs? So warm, so fuzzy so fraught with meaning. 
Somewhere back in the nineties, I read something about human beings needing fourteen hugs a day in order to feel well-adjusted. I was not about to depend on my exhausted, hard-working husband to deliver all fourteen so I settled for three or four and a shot at being moderately well-adjusted. At the time, I was married but working from home, thus somewhat socially isolated. My husband didn’t seem to worry at all, bless his well-adjusted soul.
Now that I’m on my own and have a huggable little dog, I don’t feel as if I need physical contact with everyone and anyone I run into. I’m worried, in fact, that this ritual greeting might become a cultural convention. I mean, I like my mailman Willy. Hell, we  went through the anthrax scare together (Willie still wears a glove, kind of like Michael Jackson).  I tip him at Christmastime. But I don’t want a hug from him. Nor do I want the saleslady from Ann Tailor to accompany her enthusiastic “Those pants are so you!” with a hug. My doctor? No. My neighbor? Definitely not.  The cute guy who walks his dogs at the same time I walk mine? Okay, you got me there.
I am all in favor of shrinking our carbon footprints and trying to use up fewer resources but for better or for worse, I have managed to create my own space and I, for one, would appreciate it if no one would invade it uninvited. 

 

The headlines this past week were reason enough to encourage the tearing of hair, gnashing of teeth and and scratching of heads. I know, that could happen in any week, given the headlines these days. Still, these particular headlines inspired questions on my part that I’m hoping my readers will address. Please use the comments section to throw in your two cents (or more) and whatever you do, try to maintain the faintly comic tenor of the post.

1. One Out of Seven Former Detainees Returns to Terrorist Activities: If six out of seven detainees did NOT return to terrorist activities, how many detainees did we NOT need to detain in the first place? 

2. Loaded Guns Allowed in National Parks Under Credit Card Bill:  Will this bill, if passed, allow us to use loaded guns on credit card company CEOs in national parks?   

3. Human Rights Activist Suu Kyi Arrested in Myranmar: If an American man swimming across a lake provides a reason to detain someone already under house arrest, what would happen if two Russians approached by canoe? A Frenchwoman on rollerblades?

4. Steele Threatens to Quit if RNC Undermines Funding Authority: Is this news? Is this even interesting? 

5. Kris Allen Beats Adam Lambert on Star-Packed “American Idol” Finale: Is this about eyeliner? The questionable costume choices? Or perhaps the questionable musical tastes of the average “American Idol” viewer? 

6. Fears of Swine Flu Close Three More Schools: Is swine flu less of a problem if the young folk hang out sharing one another’s soda, snot and eyeliner in parks and at the mall instead of at school? 

7. Any and all headlines with the word “Cheney” (or “Dick Cheney” or “former Vice-President) in the title: Is he writing a book? Rewriting history? Planning to run for President in 2012? Does he believe he already IS President?

Thanks for trying to wrap your brains around these pressing questions. Meanwhile, enjoy the weekend, remember the people who serve our nation and I’ll see you next week. 

I was surprised to learn, via a recent New York Times article, that scouting for older kids (“young adults”) has expanded to include training to deal with terrorist attacks, hostage situations and border skirmishes. The training involves producing life-like settings “not intended to be applied outside the simulated Explorer setting.”

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Phew, that’s a relief.

Things have certainly changed since my older brother was an Explorer back in the sixties. The teenaged boys (no girls allowed until later) were offered adventures above and beyond what traditional scouting had to offer and the chance to acquire some useful skills, like wilderness survival, navigation and first aid or even, as part of the Sea Scouts, nautical training. It was all kind of wholesome, albeit in a God-centric, homophobic kind of way.

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Times are different. The article noted the training represents “…an intense ratcheting up of one of the group’s longtime missions to prepare youths for more traditional jobs as police officers and firefighters.” The accompanying photo made these kids – sorry, “young adults” – look like SWAT team mini-recruits. Very intense.

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I suppose you can’t have too many people trained to police our borders, or be ready to take on terrorists. But if BSA (Boy Scouts of America) wants to offer its older members excitement, discipline, growth possibility and not only career but life-skills training (I think I’m fairly synthesizing the Explorer goals), the organization is missing some real opportunities. I mean, why stop at possible jobs with police or fire departments or Homeland Security? What about training for a position that might more typically be available to young people in these days of budget cutbacks? To give just one example of a simulation focused on career preparation:

Call Center Customer Service: Explorers are trained to multi-task by simultaneously pretending to listen to customer complaints, reading from a prepared script and updating Facebook pages. call centerParticipants are also encouraged to find other, creative ways to fend off mind-numbing boredom while at the same time avoid getting caught by the floor manager or called out by a customer who demands to talk with a supervisor.

As for a practice session that simulates an absolutely true-life situation:

Explorers must stand patiently in line for up to six hours at a job fair or unemployment office before coming face to face with an uninformed, unhelpful or openly hostile worker who will either send the Explorer to the back of the line, to another line, or home. Participant will be expected not to react violently, but instead restrict reaction to mild, inaudible grumbling while complying with orders from a clearly inferior person. The exercise teaches patience, temperance and belief in a Higher Authority or at least payback. unemployment

I’d like to believe neither of these situations or the several others I came up with (but didn’t include) might require training in dealing with terrorism, hostage situations or skirmishes with immigrants both legal and illegal. Then again, it’s a whole new world out there – Scout’s honor.  scout

On the airplane home from a college reunion, I watched “He’s Just Not That Into You” while reading about Elizabeth Edward’s forthcoming book, “Resilience” and her appearance on Oprah with her philandering husband. I don’t know which one made me more squeamish.

The movie is based on the best-selling book, which served as an upside-the-head smack for obsessed women everywhere. If he doesn’t call, if he always has excuses, if you suspect he’s not being straight with you then – hello? – he’s trying to tell you something without coming out and saying it: basically, he’s not all that interested although the sex might be fun. It’s taken years of bad date and mate experiences, plus one wonderful abeit criminally short marriage to understand that pursuing someone who isn’t that into you will invariably result in humiliation. By the way, guys, we know that and our best friends know that and hundreds of advice columns tell us that and don’t ask me why we continue to try and make you change anyway. Maybe if you came right out and told us directly we might accept your lack of interest – but I can’t be sure

Since we tend to assume marriage is the ultimate commitment, betrayal becomes more difficult. There’s history, there’s attachment, there may be children and there may even be love.  There’s also disbelief at the highest levels: how could he? Acceptance is long in coming. Women whose husbands deceive and leave aren’t left with much choice except to hold their heads high and get a good divorce attorney. Women whose husbands stray and stay seem to be from another planet, qualifying, we might suppose, for sainthood or at least martyrdom. 

The ultimate stakes seem to involve public figures, men whose egos and appetites blind them to the possibilities they will be outed. What do their women do? In olden days, they might suffer in silence, perhaps. No more.

HilBilI can understand that the humiliation of standing or sitting by your man  as he admits to his transgression at a press conference or on some TV talk show would be  enough to compel you to inflict maximum discomfort. Watching your husband take up with a woman young enough to be his daughter (or a man, for that matter) just because he can is hard enough. Having to suffer silently while it becomes tabloid and talk-show fodder has to be excruciating.Spitzer

So while good works and public service might do for some, a number of public figure spouses have responded with tell-all (or tell-some) books or articles these days, not to mention visits to Oprah, Ellen, “The Today Show,” and even perhaps a well-placed YouTube video. That makes it hard to think about  Elizabeth Edwards, her forthcoming book and appearance on Oprah.

Edwards follows in the footsteps of an infuriated Dina McGreevey, whose book about her husband Jim’s gay infidelity, about which she hadn’t, according to her book, a clue. mcGreevyThe ex-governor responded with his own tell-all book, the two books competing as the divorcing couple engaged in a fierce custody battle. Dina was obviously embarrassed and it’s entirely possible she needed the money; New Jersey governors don’t make all that much.

But Elizabeth Edwards is a lawyer and public health advocate, a mother of three who survived the loss of her first-born and is battling hard to survive a diagnosis of terminal cancer. She’s so  so respected she’s almost been canonized. She sits on several important boards and committees and is a leading advocate for healthcare reform. Why the tell-all book, which, by all accounts, lays far more of the blame on the other woman than on her husband?

The advanced buzz is that Edwards wanted to help other women by telling her story but there are ways to provide counseling, outreach and support without headlines. Money might explain part of it but I don’t think that’s it.  Of course, as we writers know, once we’ve gone through the painful yet cathartic process of writing it all down, we are understandably anxious to   get it our there. More than a few wronged women might be into perpetrating the drama, which also extends the attention.You could argue that Edwards has exacted the ultimate revenge: her husband is to appear with her on “Oprah.”

Mostly, though, I think I suspect Edwards is afflicted with our distinctly female need to explain – explain in print, explain again to Oprah or Ellen or Meredith or whichever sympathetic yeah-I’ve-been-there woman is gently interviewing you or to your best friend or the woman who does your nails or someone you’re sitting next to on the subway, explain yet again on the book tour or on YouTube or at your book club or your Pilates class, explain over and over and over again as many times as you need to – in the preposterous hope that explaining it will help make sense of it and may, in some distant time and place or possibly a parallel universe – allow you to get through to the cheating other who may – if the stars align and the earth moves under our feet  -  come up with an acceptable explanation and maybe even come home to stay.

“April 30, 2009 (YORKVILLE, Ill.) (WLS) — The World Health Organization announced Thursday it will no longer refer to the virus as the ’swine flu.’ The agency say the term is misleading consumers and causing some countries to ban pork products needlessly, because there is no evidence of infection in pigs, or of humans getting the infection directly from pigs. This has also had an effect on those who make a living breeding, raising and selling pork. ” (from ABC local affiliate 7 in Chicago)
All I can say is: it’s about time. Sure, economic considerations are behind this latest adjustment. It’s not as if too many people were stepping up to defend the reputation of the poor pig, what with unfair accusations, cruel jokes and the wholesale shunning by their barnyard bretheren (like chickens have so much to brag about).
In this rush to blame the porcine community, old friends have turned on each other. I  was deeply disappointed to learn the Winnie the Pooh was ready to drop a dime on his old friend Piglet. 

“April 30, 2009 (YORKVILLE, Ill.) (WLS) — The World Health Organization announced Thursday it will no longer refer to the virus as the ’swine flu.’ The agency say the term is misleading consumers and causing some countries to ban pork products needlessly, because there is no evidence of infection in pigs, or of humans getting the infection directly from pigs. This has also had an effect on those who make a living breeding, raising and selling pork. ” (from ABC local affiliate 7 in Chicago)

All I can say is: it’s about time. Sure, economic considerations are behind this latest adjustment. It’s not as if too many people were stepping up to defend the reputation of the poor pig, what with unfair accusations, cruel jokes and the wholesale shunning by their barnyard bretheren (like chickens have so much to brag about).

In this rush to blame the porcine community, old friends have turned on each other. I  was deeply disappointed to learn the Winnie the Pooh was ready to drop a dime on his old friend Piglet. 

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“As the two friends wandered through the snow on their way home, Piglet grinned to himself, thinking how lucky he was to have a best friend like Pooh.

 

Pooh thought to himself: ‘If the pig sneezes, he’s fucken [sic] dead’ “

 

 

 

 

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 And who alerted the border patrol in Mexico that Miss Piggy was vacationing there, resulting in her detention for several hours? 

 

 

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This picture of a young boy and his best friend bonding was subject to scurrilous rumors about how swine flu was spread, not to mention gossip as to the true nature of their relationship.

 

Frankly, the entire thing has been overkill and it’s time to end it. 

 

 

 

 The fact is, pigs are smart, gentle, cleaner than many animals, loveable and loyal to a fault. They work well with others and make great pets. babe3   ca91e6o6ca7kfiszcaubsj5xcas1shfzca4ki6g0ca3fztpeca78orjacacxkws1cacfae3ucasixsw2calyvbccca8bfwqacahhav3zcamu41n4calavnv0ca9n8g5cca0cn3qucapvlj6vca9fj3bkcapv3vdu    potbellied

 

 

 

This hasn’t protected them from being stereotyped by humans, i.e.”Your room is a pigsty” or “You eat like a pig” or “Don’t hog the remote control” or “All men are swine.” It’s unfair to pigs everywhere. In fact, it’s what Fern, the human heroine of “Charlotte’s Web” and Wilbur’s mistress, says is “the most terrible case of injustice I ever heard of.”

Though falsely linked to various viruses, pigs remain easy-going, affectionate and generally ready to sacrifice themselves for our well-being. They don’t deserve blame for famine, pestilence or the price of a hot dog at the new Yankee Stadium. wilbur

 

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